But other persons are able to keep up a surface appearance of functionality; they hold jobs, they get married, and they have children. Here are the dark roots of symptom after symptom of secret resentment for the father .
Addictions (alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, bling, pornography, etc.) allow them to feel filled when they are really empty; thus they feel nothing .
Argumentativeness prevents them from accepting truth, which includes the truth that their father has failed them; thus they accept nothing .
Immodesty (dressing so as to reveal the body rather than clothe it with dignity; or making the body into an object with tattoos, piercings, and unnatural hair styles and colorings) prevents them from respecting their own bodies; thus they respect nothing .
Mental confusion (often expressed by forgetting things or as difficulty with math) prevents them from engaging with the signs and symbols of life; thus they engage with nothing .
Procrastination prevents them from stepping out into the world they don?t know how to negotiate in the first place; thus they accomplish nothing .
Sexual preoccupation (whether as self-created mental fantasies, pornography, lust, or sexual acts) prevents them from experiencing emotional intimacy; thus they are intimate with nothing
In the end, all these ?nothings,? Continue reading “Yet under the surface of normality a deep secret of anger and victimization is buried”